18, 05, 2016
I struggle tremendously with thinking about the future. I know this may sound like a good thing and not a struggle at all, but believe me it is. It’s to the point where, sometimes I’m consumed. So consumed with how to get to the next level or the next thing that I cannot and do not enjoy my current stage. The danger with worrying about the future is that it builds [what I call] irrational fear and prevents me from ever being satisfied with where I am now.
I experience irrational fear because I’m overly concerned with how my life will pan out. Most times I’m worried about things that won’t ever happen or that I truly don’t need to think about right now. It’s the equivalent of a three-year-old child scared that they may one day owe the IRS back taxes. Yes, taxes are an issue that adults face, but at three years old you really don’t need to be thinking about that. At three years old, a child should be drooling and watching Little Einsteins. See how irrational that fear is? It’s really a dangerous place to live because you are always looking ahead. And when you look too far ahead, you’re bound to trip on something right in front of you.
Realizing that this is an issue, I’ve decided to practice letting go and worrying less. Here are 3 things I do to help ease my anxiety about the future:
I pray specifically for the things that I’m concerned about. If it’s whether I’ll be successful, I pray that the Lord leads me in my purpose. If its whether or not I’ll be able to afford something, I pray that the Lord provides. In prayer I learn to trust God more for the future which eases my mind. It’s like when a child tells their parent that something isn’t working and the parent says, “I’ll take a look at it.” There is no need to worry about it any longer because it’s being handled by the adult who knows best. God is the adult in all my situations.
Sometimes a situation can get overwhelming and lead into a blackhole of “what ifs.” When this starts to happen, I take a break. I leave what I was doing and go do something fun to get my mind off worrying: sleep, listen to music, watch my favorite show, go to the mall.
I find that my worry and anxiety subsides when I’m prepared. And the best way to prepare for the future is to do my best now. I prioritize and give 100% to whatever is on my plate at the moment. This helps me to dive fully into the present and focus on where God wants to use me currently. When I give my all in the present, a new love and appreciation develops for what I’m doing. This keeps me from worrying about tomorrow and looking forward to the now.
I hope these tips help you as much as they help me.
11, 05, 2016
I’ve been on Instagram and browsing a few of my favorite fashion blogs, and lately I’ve noticed that everyone is rocking the off the shoulder trend. Whether it’s a dress, top or jumper, all I’m seeing is shoulder. And I love it.
02, 05, 2016
I love a great deal –because the only thing better than finding something that you really want is finding it on sale. And since summer is almost here, it’s important for me to be able to add some new summer pieces to my wardrobe without breaking the bank.
29, 04, 2016
Before you judge me, I’m aware that we are rolling into summer and I’m wearing a turtleneck. But I had to share with you all what is easily the most encouraging piece that I have in my closet.
Through the purchase of this scarf, I was able to help provide education for girls in Ghana. As a young Liberian-American who works to help educate my local Liberian community, it was important to me to support a cause that helped empower the women of Africa. I am dedicated to empowering women. So, as summer springs, I found it necessary to spotlight a brand that was doing so: Bené.
20, 04, 2016
If you guys can remember, one of my goals for the year was to read a new book every month. Then some crazy ambition came over me and that turned into a new book a week. I mean, I really love to read so how hard can it be. I figured between the books I’m reading for work, the stacks of books I have on my nightstand and all of the books I want to read, doing a book a week should be no problem. Well, I was wrong. It’s a problem!
15, 04, 2016
A little over a year ago, fresh from quitting my office job, I decided to take a leap of faith and do something I’ve been wanting to do for a while– start a blog.
I’ve wanted to blog ever since my freshman year of college (about seven years ago), when I was stalking sites like Black Girl with Long Hair and The Feisty House, but I’ve always been afraid. I was afraid to fail at something that I was passionate about and wanted to successfully accomplish. After seven years of thinking about it, starting blogs but being too afraid to continue and working for other people’s blogs, I prayed and realized that it was time to throw caution to the wind. I gave birth to TaniquaRuss.com on April 1, 2015.